Do you know what your lust language is? You’ve probably heard about the five love languages: physical touch, gifts, words of affirmation, quality time and acts of service, which help us understand how we express and receive love. But there are also four lust languages that clue us in to our preferred style of intimacy, and our turn-ons and turn-offs, too.
Understanding our lust language can give us insight into what excites us physically, mentally and emotionally. Sexologist Suzannah Weiss explains, “Learning about your lust language may also help you feel more confident in yourself sexually.
These are the four lust languages and what they mean:
- Romantic - These types love being wined and dined, so a candlelit dinner gets them more hot and bothered than a sensual massage. Relationship expert Jamie Bronstein says the best way to get to a romantic’s heart is by going out of your way to be creative and thoughtful and make them feel special and valued.
- Harmonious - Those with this lust language are all about being in harmony with their partner, so they’re big on teamwork and evenly splitting responsibilities. They may also get turned on when their partner pulls more weight during busy times. Turn them on by cooking dinner or cleaning the kitchen, or asking what task you can do to help them out.
- Connected - This type is closely related to the “words of affirmation” love language and craves a strong emotional connection, not just a physical one. Verbal appreciation is a big turn on for them and they want to know their partner’s heart and mind are present before getting intimate.
- Primal - If you have a sex bucket list or are into kinks and fetishes, you may identify with the primal lust language. Bronstein explains this type prefers adventure-driven intimacy, and physical connection is a top priority, while emotional and mental connections take a backseat. Skin-to-skin contact is a must, so they love a naked massage and sleeping in their birthday suit.
Source: Hello Giggles
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