Don't you love the "or" part? That means you can be ugly and nice or you can be attractive and mean, and you've still got a good chance at having people like you. If you are ugly and mean, you're screwed. It reminds me of the scene in The Big C where Cathy tells Andrea that she can't be fat and mean, she has to be fat and jolly or she can a skinny bitch, but she has to choose. Ouch. (Jezebel)